Statistically, I’m the least attractive person in the dating scene. It’s why a huge clothing company like Abercrombie & Fitch can make shirts with Asian stereotypes like “Two Wongs Can Make It White.” It’s why Stephen Colbert (whom I love, by the way), can get away with non-apologies when he cracks yet another Asian joke. Worst of all, it appears that Asians don’t care, either. You can drag an Asian-American off an airplane, and the most noise you’ll hear from other Asians is that they just don’t want to be seen as noisy and displeasing.Alongside black women, the Asian-American male is considered the most ugly and undesirable person in the room. It’s why Ryo Oyamada, a 24 year old Japanese college student, can get run over by a police car in New York, and the officer goes free and no one chants in the streets. The thing is, there are no shortage of Asian-American men who are physically and intellectually desirable, who could portray themselves as fully living beings with compelling stories and relatable conflicts.Editor’s note: We’ve all seen it, everywhere we go, nearly every day: an American man with a Chinese woman on his arm.
Le says that creates what he calls a “cultural penalty” in the dating world.For instance, I know many Asian men that refuse to stick up for Asian women for this reason alone.They view this situation as a betrayal of the utmost degree and their own rational for not supporting Asian women is thus deemed warranted.Can we really handle an Asian alpha male who gets the girl at the end? The shift in perception of the Asian-American male coincides with a shift in self-perception.(Much less a non-Asian female lead get an Asian guy at the end? Is it also possible to take a creative risk without guarantees?