While I appreciate the traditional sentiment that the man should pay for a date, that rule grows out of an even more basic concept: the person doing the asking does the paying. However, a first date generated from an online relationship is different.And as men usually do the asking, they do the paying. Its a get-to-know-you moment, one which may go somewhere or may never go any farther.And let’s not forget the crackberry addicts constantly looking down and fiddling on their cell phones texting aggressively behind the menu. Then again, maybe it’s just a sign that they’re just not that into you. There are basic rules of etiquette and the sad truth is that many people still do not follow them. I get slightly peeved when people don’t follow simple basic etiquette.
Who pays for a date in the online dating world, especially who pays for the first face-to-face meet?
That said, I also encourage women to do the asking and the paying. Because she pays her way, the woman may feel more comfortable not having any sense of obligation to the man, be it to see him again or for anything else.
There’s always that oafish bore who insists on yammering throughout the entire movie. Then there’s the impolite individual that never responds to evites, invitations, or Facebook events (fine, that one’s a stretch).
Until, of course, one stands out and stops you mid-swipe — a familiar face. Seeing someone you know IRL on Tinder feels like walking in on someone in a dressing room or accidentally stumbling upon their diary.
Maybe it's because Tinder is still sort of seen as an embarrassing hunting ground for lazy hookups, or because realizing your boss is out there trying to find someone (just like you) feels way too personal, but coming across an acquaintance from the outside world in the confines of the app feels intimate and vulnerable, and not in a good way.